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CLOSER TO THE EDGE OF ATTENTION SEEKING

Before I start off with anything I just wanted to say that when I check on this blog this morning I’ve noticed 17 comments, which don’t happen over night with no new blog post in a week, turned out all of them were a spam, half of it being in German for some reason as I’m not as skilled in German as I’d like it to be I didn’t understand a thing, however there was a one comment that struck to me, and from looking at the email address and then clicking on the url, which didn’t even exist, shocker! All of it was a spam of course. However I’ll quote the last comment I’ve mentioned as I personally found it rather amusing, and may I also add it was under this post, which was from 3 years ago… well done! (I’m also keeping original spelling and such)

“The next time I learn a blog, I hope that it doesnt disappoint me as much as this one. I imply, I know it was my option to read, but I actually thought youd have one thing fanainctisg to say. All I hear is a bunch of whining about one thing that you could repair should you werent too busy in search of attention.”

I am unsure what intentions of writing this message were, well, most likely to troll and get their own frustrations out more then the intention of hurting me. Becouse trust me, it’s hard. Over the years I’ve grown quite a tough skin, and now not many words or actions can get under there, I became bit numb to the idea, which I know it isn’t the best but I just roll with it, I guess. Not only this comment didn’t hurt me (let’s remember it was also a spam not likely a real message) it amused me more off. And of course I’ve shared it on my Instagram stories (make sure to follow me!) and sent it to my friends so they could laugh with me and most likely today I will pop to Asda and buy a picture frame so I can frame it and post it only actual wall and not only the facebook one. And there are few reasons for that.

  1. It doesn’t actually get to me. I find more humour then hurt in this comment and I think that’s how trolling on the internet should be approached, don’t let those people get to you.
  2. I had worse things said to me. I really did, I must have been called every name in the book and that was IRL as well, which in some ways is more hurtful then reading a comment, therefore some, most likely, machine generated comment doesn’t faze me. Besides that comment was made under a post from 3 years ago, doll, you’re attacking a teenager, grow the hell up!
  3. “Too busy in search of attention” news flash! As much as we bloggers, vloggers, Instagramers or content creators, love to deny it, we do want attention, we want the comments, we want the interaction, we want people to read our posts, give us feedback. There’s nothing wrong with that! I’m sure whoever made that comment meant it in really negative way, however when reading it for the first time, I was like “hell yeah I want that attention” and all of us do. We want our hard work to be recognised. That’s a very human thing to do. So thank you so much for stating the obvious!

So as much as hate, trolling and name calling on the world wide web sucks, there is some truth to it, and even though they may call us out on things that are suppose to be wrong instead of fighting embraced it! A very good example is Paris Hilton, I know it’s really random person to mention here but please bare with me it will make sense! Fun Fact: I love trash tv and reality shows, they are great as I don’t need to “think” or analyzed whatever is happening. Paris Hilton made a empire out of her “stupidity” and being a “dumb blonde” or whatever society and media call her. She has this mind set of “You see me as a dumb blonde who doesn’t know anything? Fine, I will be that dumb blonde AND get paid for it” She did and she made a business out of it, even thought being born into money already helps in my opinion. The point is, she embraced the label she got and made it her advantage. So yes. I do whine a lot! Just look at my Twitter! But that’s who I am, if people like it, great! If they don’t that’s their loss. Because I am sick and tired of trying to fit into a community and fit into a box or trying to be someone I am simply not. And as for attention hell to the yeah I want the attention, but not the attention of “Hey, look at me I’m perf I’m a special snowflake, someone give me brownie points” No. I want the attention towards my blog, towards my work that I work pretty hard on and I’m planning to kick it up a notch!

And as for my writing and opinions I like to be unapologetic however I would like to say sorry in behalf of those images, well more my facial expressions. You see these photo’s were taken on the 2nd of January where my New Years hangover was still hanging over me (too real for you?)  Do not worry, there’s nothing that red eyeshadow, black comfortable outfit and a good photographer cannot fix. Can you imagine that besides from cropping, and adding b&w filters I’ve barely edited these photos?! Jodie’s photography skills and new camera, which I want in my life, like yesterday, are pretty damn god! It’s amazing how a good photo can transform the most basic outfit as let’s face it, this outfit is rather basic! All black, no heel, no accessories, the only thing that stands out in my opinion is the silhouette of the fabric and my red eye’s which if you’ve been following me for a while, they have been my go to! It’s just such a easy way to add a pop of colour if you’re not feeling like wearing in on your body.

Jacket – Vintage

T-shirt – Zara (Men’s)

Under top – COS

Jeans – Bershka

Shoes – Doc Martens

Beanie – Primark

Eyeshadow – NYX in “Hot Red” (similar)

Photography: Jodie 

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9 Comments

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    Kimiperi
    January 30, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    Really I don’t get the point of the comment and honestly, the person took its time to go back 3 years on your blog, that says everything already right? I’m not looking through something for that long if it’s not interesting. I love you and your styles and also your beautiful personality!! ♥ People are just jealous and the example with Paris Hilton is so damn true. It kind of helps me right now as well thank you so much for the reminder. Everyone is gifted with something special, it can be beautiful it can be ‘trashy’ or ‘ugly’ but the ones who make it to themselves and their personality, who love and appreciate it are the ones who do it the right way! And these negative comments are pure karma. You know why? It’s like a game or challenge. It makes you stronger. You read it..and the more you read it the stronger you get. So be thankful for such ‘idiots’ because they are actually so important! You are amazing dear never forget that. The outfit is the bomb & you totally rock the red eyeshadow! :3 Even one day after New Year 🙂 ♥

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    Milex
    January 31, 2017 at 7:09 pm

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    Rita
    February 2, 2017 at 6:02 am

    Kinga I get a lot of spam comments too….it’s just annoying! I love how you’re keeping it real girl! Stay true to you and don’t pay attention to trolls! You’re totally rocking this edgy look btw! 🙂

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    Xin
    February 2, 2017 at 12:41 pm

    Love that style!

    xx
    Xin

    http://xincerely.blogspot.com

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    Andrew
    February 5, 2017 at 5:38 pm

    great style!

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    Mira Tolvanen
    February 6, 2017 at 5:55 pm

    Looks great!

    http://www.hotdecades.com

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    Olivia Emily
    February 9, 2017 at 9:03 am

    Haha, I feel like that person must have been somewhat interested in your blog to go back THREE YEARS in posts?!
    Anyway, your reaction to it was amazing <3
    Love this outfit too, escpecially paired with the red eyeshadow! Colourful eyes and black outfits are such a perfect combo <3

    xx
    https://oliviaemily.com

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    STYLE | BLOOD – Rock this Runway
    February 10, 2017 at 5:05 pm

    […] I guess. And all black everything, c’mon who would say no to that! Just like on my  last outfit post it’s all back with a pop of colour in a form of make up. Can you tell that I’m a […]

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    Seher Aykız
    February 13, 2017 at 7:14 pm

    Hah! This is mmy favorite song!
    Your makeup looks good. It’s quite different in style.
    http://theemoonlight.blogspot.com.tr/

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